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Sunday, September 28th, 2008

On the last Thursday in June, I left the Gynaecology clinic and headed for the car park. I noticed a lot of hospital staff from different departments had gathered along the corridor by the general outpatient department. Thinking that I had walked into a safe collection point, I asked somebody in the crowd where the fire was. She explained they had merely gathered for a photograph to commemorate the 60th anniversary of the NHS. I couldn’t see a doctor in the crowd so I decided to represent our genus amongst the nurses, paramedics, auxiliaries and ancillary hospital staff. The Hospital Trust’s Chief Information Officer spotted me and came across to greet me warmly and directed me to go and read a comment posted by a grateful patient on  www.patientopinion.org

under the column “thank you” and “maternity”.

Worried mum” as she identified herself, had thanked my employers and written very complimentary things about how I attended to her daughter – who was 37 weeks pregnant – and allayed their worries about the prognosis of her unborn grand-daughter. A Community midwife, who felt that the baby was rather small and lagging behind its expected growth velocity (“small-for-dates” or “intra-uterine fetal growth retardation)” had referred them to the hospital. Two weeks earlier I had received a “Thank you” card from a patient I did not remember. The delivery records showed she was one of three women whose babies I delivered by an operation on night duty in May 2008.

The two expressions of gratitude contrast with the commonplace culture of complaints, criticism and disaffection that is prevalent in our society today. The doctor, especially the Gynaecologist is the most-affected. The reasons are legion but some include:

Gynaecology “patients” are normally healthy women who come to have a baby or who have a menstrual problem. Unlike other patients with severe abdominal pains from appendicitis or chest pains from a heart attack, they are not exactly ill. It follows that their treatment must be perfect. Perfection however belongs only to God. If and when things go wrong our women feel aggrieved and if an apology is not swift and satisfactory, the solicitor’s letter follows as light follows darkness;

Obstetrics is one of, if not the most, high-pressure clinical speciality. It is the only speciality where the doctor is confronted with treating two individuals in one – the one inside the other. The mother’s needs must be balanced against the baby’s hence the timing of intervention requires lots of experience. If a woman of 32 weeks’ pregnancy has severe abdominal pains due solely to her pregnancy, we can relieve it by performing a caesarean. That however creates another problem – a premature baby who could become brain-damaged, blind, deaf, disabled or even die. In trying his/her best, the doctor may cop an earful from patients and their spouses and relatives. Added to this is that the resident doctor usually has more than one client to attend to simultaneously. He or she prioritises but that would not satisfy the last in the queue;

Previous press reports of doctors’ misdemeanours and successful litigations have fuelled the belief that every complaint needs to be aired and pursued to its logical conclusion. There are always genuine complaints as well as doctors’ blunders that need to be addressed. I personally believe that victims of medical errors, who have been incapacitated should be compensated but frivolous complaints about trivialities not only undermine the confidence of these doctors, they also slow down their work as they need to take time out to study case notes, write reports and on occasions attend hearings or even courts. In practice only a tiny proportion of complaints succeed because there are always extenuating circumstances and peer reviews along the lines of Bolam and Bolitho.

With these in mind, every doctor is uplifted when a patient returns to say “thank you.” On the other hand, victims of insinuations, presumptions, assumptions and innuendoes usually despair if their character is not strong enough. Some can shrug off such misinterpretations but others are not so strong emotionally. When Tiger Woods was wincing in agony in the fourth round of the 2008 US Open golf competition, Retief Goosen, a fellow pro, was quoted as saying that Woods was exaggerating an injury. It turned out after tests that Woods had indeed been very courageous to play through a serious injury when most mortal men would have cried off. Michael Stich, the German former tennis player whilst commentating on Wimbledon 2007 thought that Serena Williams was making too much of an alleged injury. After the Beijing Olympics, there were doubts from newspaper sports writers on the genuineness of the feats achieved by Usain Bolt, Michael Phelps and Christine Ohuruogu. It is true that certain athletes have cheated in the past – some were caught, others escaped – but every human endeavour, no matter how incredible must be given the benefit of the doubt. Until I have walked in some else’s shoes, it ill behoves me to criticise them for limping. Until I know somebody’s genetics and how oxygen-deprived his/her brain was at birth, I would be wrong to criticise their stutter.

Let us give credit to whom it is due and be considerate when criticising any errant person. The best criticism I have ever come across was that in the letters written to seven churches in (today’s) Turkey. Five of the seven were failing. The writer first outlined what they were doing well before suggesting what he would have done differently. That is constructive, improvement-oriented, desirable and life-changing criticism (Revelations. 3 & 4).

And who makes us a judge over others anyway? It was well said by ………………. that there is so much good in the worst of us and so much evil in the best of us that it hardly behoves any of us to talk about the rest of us.

Johnson Folorunso Ajayi, September 24, 2008

 

 

THE FABLE OF THE INDIAN CHIEF

Saturday, August 23rd, 2008

The story was told of a church that interviewed a few people for the vacant post of Head Pastor. Of the 10 short-listed, many applicants they rejected (and the reasons) were:

Abraham – told a lie to protect his wife, he would be unreliable;

Moses – cracked under pressure and did not know how to delegate; Elijah – prone to bouts of depression;

David – brave but murderous; besides, our wives wouldn’t be safe with him about;

Solomon – wisdom personified but a serial womaniser;

Peter – unreliable and untruthful; abandons friends in moments of need;

Paul – good orator but had a violent past. Known to have been intolerant of opposing views; 

John the Baptist – too rustic and ancient. Takes Green issues too seriously and critical of royalty;  

Jesus – hangs around with riff-raffs; his brand of “second chance” wouldn’t wash;

Judas – cunning tactician; could sell our dead woods for 30 grand; good with money – he IS the man

  

Funny or true?

Through a friend in Zambia, I got to hear the story of an Indian Chief who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.
The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the autumn. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.
The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.
The second son rejected that and said that it was covered with green buds and full of promise.
The third son disagreed, “The tree was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing I had ever seen.”
“I disagree with all of you,” retorted the youngest son, “it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfilment.”
 
Their father then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree’s life. He advised them that man cannot, and must not, judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love
 that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the  seasons are up.                 If you give up when it’s winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, and the fulfilment of your autumn.

Incidentally, the church in the story missed out on appointing the only man that was called the “friend of God” – Abraham. Only four people were ever called “Man of God” and Elijah was one of them. Moses – what can we say of his selfless sacrifice when he asked God to wipe his name off His book so that God could save the people he was leading to Canaan? Paul, Peter, Jesus?

The church missed out on the only man ever described as “the Man after God’s own heart” – King David. So he sinned with Uriah and Bath-sheba? But he repented and that is the crux of the matter. God is not looking for perfectionists but the Zacchaeuses, Mary Magdalenes, Nicodemuses, “the woman caught in adultery,” and the weaklings of today – so long as they are willing to admit, repent and change.

                                                                                                    

Johnson Folorunso Ajayi, 23 Aug 2008

WHAT YOU WILL GET FROM THIS BLOG

Wednesday, July 16th, 2008
First, an introduction.
I am a Gynaecologist (a Fellow of the Royal College of Obstetricians & Gynaecologists of London).  I also hold a Master’s degree in Medico-legal  Law of the University of Cardiff; a Certificate in Clinical Teaching from the University of Liverpool that entitles me to teach teachers to teach (I do teach medical students and junior doctors as well). I am a trained Counsellor – marriage, lifestyle, child-upbringing, philosophy, etc – and as a parent, I understand the domestic scene.
I have a certificate in Food Hygiene and safety so I can use any kitchen to teach you to cook, or if you were to visit me in the “2008 Home of Golf” I can treat you to a loaf of bread such as you probably have never eaten before. Pity Tiger Woods is not in town! I am a chef. it follows that in future, I can handle your gynae/maternity question, offer counselling on marriage & lifestyle, cook 4u, bake a special loaf for your birthday/wedding, and regale you with one or two jokes. 
In my garden, I am growing peppers, cucumbers, grapes, tomatoes, onions, peanuts, okra, spinach, cauliflower and melon. Horse manure supplies the fertilizer. My domestic heating costs are reduced by a solar panel that I have just got installed by a national company (details available on request).
Finally, I am growing a strange pot – an orange plant that I have been nurturing for three years. It is now about 18in tall. Three weeks ago, I planted a few black-eye beans in the same pot. I am fascinated as the peas have sprouted and have now outgrown the orange with their verdant, lush tri-lobed leaves. I feel like making a salad of the proteineceous leaves but I will wait for the pods.
Reminds me of a girl who went to her professor in her first week as a fresher. “What is the shortest course I can take to spend the shortest time in the university and still obtain my BSc?” The professor smiled and said, “It takes God 30 years to make an oak tree but only three months to make a gourd. When the storms come, I know the one that will still be standing. One is everlasting and one withers in 3 months after a short blossom.  The choice is yours to be an oak or an ephemeral vegetable  plant.”
Are you struggling today with a difficult task? Keep at it. The English usually say that you get what you pay for. Cheap things, as a rule, don’t last like “Sheffield steel.” Building a house? Use the best quality materials. It will be expensive but it will be worth it. Don’t do cheap if you can strain a bit and invest for the future. Quality education for your children. Quality clothes that last. Quality motor parts. Use your best plates for eating. If you die tomorrow, others will use them for you!

Hello world!

Wednesday, July 9th, 2008

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